Wedding Tactics

I’m so sorry to hear that my wedding invitation is causing you such dilemmas!

Truth is, I was coerced into inviting you because I know my Grandfather cares for you (originally, you were outside of the immediate family we decide to invite)

Space at the Country Club is limited. You and John were invited. Your comments about the family and my guest list while insightful and creative, are not our choices, and not welcome. I have no feelings either way about my not attending David’s wedding, and frankly, I’m damn glad I didn’t have to travel to New York for an entire weekend to attend the wedding of people whom I do not know. My parents who have a close relationship with Howie and Ina attended as representatives for our family. And! They had fun! And! I am excited that Howie and Ina will be able to attend and support my parents. And for those reasons, I’m not inviting David, Elana and Michelle; I simply do not know them. My wedding day is not the time for family meetings, bonding and reunions. With all due respect, it is one hundred percent about me and my future husband, our marriage and the beginning of our family. I kinda give a rat’s ass about everyone else.

Although, I feel I was being considerate to include you which means paying over two hundred dollars for you and John to eat and drink. It is expected that when one receives and invitation to an event, one is to accept or decline, not offer negotiations as to who may attend.

As far as a hairdresser and make-up artist are concerned, this is my wedding, no one cares what you look like. However, there was card inside the invitation packet listing two hotels, at which I secured group rates and both are within a couple of miles of the country club with rates of about $120/night. They are both located in an area known as Lakewood Ranch. If you Google that, I’m sure you will find a variety of shops to meet your needs. I am not terribly familiar with the malls and department stores of Sarasota.

I’m confused about why you don’t want me to discuss these issues with anyone else. Perhaps it is because you have made awkward and inappropriate requests of the family in the past, such as asking Uncle Vic for money while he was gravely ill last summer.