Wedding Tactics

*We received your lovely invitation and would like to come! Thanks for inviting us. I will return the requested card but just wanted to ask you a few questions first. I know it’s difficult to include everyone and don’t know how many people you’ve invited or can invite, but if it’s at all possible, I’d like to know if Lauren could come. I know she likes you very much and enjoyed visiting with you during Uncle V’s 90th birthday party and recently when we came down for parents’ weekend. Please don’t let L. know that I have sent this email. However, I also feel strongly that the 2 families should continue to have contact even after my generation is gone. I would give up my invitation & J’s and ask H&I to give up theirs (if they were invited) in order to include the younger generation of L, D&E and M. I think it would be wonderful if you could all connect and think it’s awful that you were not invited to David’s wedding. I think that D, E. & M. are all woth getting to know and are all special people. Of course, ditto for L. Is Marc’s family large? Is your family large on your father’s side? I think my side is quite small. I spoke with J about this dilemma and he said he would give up his invitation to include L. If it comes to that, I think he’d just make up some excuse that he can’t miss work on that Monday.

Also, I have a few questions regarding the weekend. When we book flights, should we just plan to come for the wedding or will there be other events, such as a rehearsal dinner or brunch the next day? Which hotel should we try for? Will you block off a number of rooms? No, I don’t expect anyone to pay for my hotel bill, and I hope it isn’t coming across that way, but I know that E’s mother or I. blocked off rooms in the hotel where the rehearsal dinner was held and I think the hotel gave those wedding guests a slight discount.

Is there a dept. store nearby? Which is the closest? I would like to have my make-up & hair done & would appreciate your suggestions. For D’s wedding, I just asked the personal shoppers at each nearby dept. store where I live who they recommended for makeup regardless of the brand. I used one of them & was happy with the results. Also I had my own hairdresser do my hair but won’t have that luxury out of town. Could you recommend a hairdresser please? Thanks so much!

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