How to choose your wedding day
If you have ever had to pick a wedding day, you know exactly what I’m talking about. For all you recently engaged couples who are still “thinking it over” and “not yet settled on a date” … here are some tips, pitfalls to look out for and general complaints you can expect.
One initial issue for me was to have the wedding over a holiday weekend, meant that travel would be more expensive, but, people wouldn’t necessarily have to take as much time off from work. I knew I would feel guilty for taking someone’s intensely coveted three-day weekend.
I got engaged in July, and I always knew I wanted a Fall wedding. That meant that we either had a wedding in December (yes, I know, not so much autumn anymore and also soon) … or we waited a year and a half.
That. Was. Not. Happening.
Marc also said NO to December for that whole too soon reason. I still don’t think it is and I KNOW I could have planned it all in four months flat. You can train for a marathon in four months; you can plan a wedding in four months.
When we finally decided where we wanted to get married, we just looked at the dates they had available and the openings began in early May. I did not want to get married on Mother’s Day. Or, Memorial Day. May 20th was the earliest that our venue was available, so, that’s how we decided on our date.
I had friends beg me not to get married in December because they had another wedding to attend the week before, also in Florida and that would have been a lot of traveling for them.
My brother-in-law-to-be also asked me to move my wedding date, after I had put down a deposit, because his girlfriend’s sister is getting married the weekend before, and that’s just a lot of wedding-time for them.
So much for my Fall wedding, or my December wedding.
And I’m not stealing anyone’s weekends. M’kay?
The Moral?
THIS IS YOUR WEDDING.
DO AS YOU PLEASE.
YOU WILL NOT AND CANNOT PLEASE ALL OF THE PEOPLE.
These here morals? I will repeat them weekly and sometimes daily for my own benefit and yours.
You will thank me later.
December 22nd, 2006 at 2:53 pm
Very important words for me to remember!
“THIS IS YOUR WEDDING.
DO AS YOU PLEASE.
YOU WILL NOT AND CANNOT PLEASE ALL OF THE PEOPLE.”
I’ll definitely keep these words in mind as I plan my wedding. I should put a post-it on my computer monitor at home and at work!!